How Mixed Martial Arts Builds Self Confidence in Shy Kids
If you look at some of the people in our society who have achieved happiness and success you will see they are not all talented, intelligent, funny, or charming. They do have one thing in common though, and that is self confidence. Imagine going through life scared of others or constantly fearing failure. You would be afraid to try new things or meet new people. Usually when we see a child like this we call them shy, but the truth is they lack self confidence. Very often these children become targets for bullies. We can’t just tell these kids to be confident, we must build their confidence by empowering them and showing them what they can achieve.
Step one is to teach kids a comprehensive mixed martial art. At Tiger Schulmann’s we teach both kickboxing and jiu-jitsu. Kickboxing teaches self defense in the standing position while jiu-jitsu teaches self defense on the ground. This combination enables students to handle any self defense situation that comes their way. If a child is unable to defend themselves and is always feeling intimidated or threatened how can they be expected to learn in school or have fun on the playground or feel at ease in any social situation. Knowing mixed martial arts gives kids the self confidence to live their lives without fearing others. Studies have shown that people who know martial arts are less likely to ever need to use them. This is because of the confidence with which they carry themselves.
Step two is building confidence through achievement. Anything worth doing is worth doing well. The worthy things can be difficult. We must teach kids not to give up when things get tough. This is called the “non-quitting spirit” or self discipline. We begin by setting a long term goal and then breaking it down into shorter easier to reach goals. When a child hits an obstacle their first inclination may be to give up. As instructors and parents we will hold their hand and help them overcome that obstacle. We do this as many times as needed until they understand that as long as they don’t quit they will achieve their goal no matter what it is. If we let kids quit as soon as something gets difficult we teach them a pattern of quitting. On the other hand if we show them how to overcome roadblocks we teach them a pattern of perseverance. This “non-quitting spirit” or self discipline will lead to a lifetime of achievement which builds self confidence.
The equation is very simple. Self defense + self discipline = self confidence. A confident child is a happy child. As parents when our kids are happy we are happy. Tiger Schulmann’s Mixed Martial Arts is more than just another after school activity. It is a character building exercise that shapes the lives of its young students.
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